Tuesday, April 24, 2007

My day at Valley Forge

I had off of work today. I decided after straightening up the apartment that I could not spend my day off confined to a stuffy apartment when it was such a beautiful day outside. I arrived at valley forge around noon and had a lovely afternoon of bible study, journaling and reflection. I began reading a book that I picked up on Saturday at the book sale called Catholic and Christian, so I could better understand the Catholic doctrine. I didn't get very far in the book when I had to pee. When I returned to my blanket, I was approached by this guy and his pit bull dog. Becca, this was around the time that you called me. He asked me if I was planning on staying around for a while and if it would be ok if he left his stuff with me while he took his dog for a jog, fearing someone might walk off with his stuff. I didn't think twice about it. He introduced his dog, Sam, and himself as Barry, and asked me my name, and he plopped his cell phone, car keys, bottle of water, cigarettes, and wallet on my blanket and then jolted off in a fast sprint. I figured he would be gone for about 10 minutes at least so I resumed reading. He wasn't gone very long at all when he returned panting and out of breath more so then his dog. So I let him catch his breath and regain his composure, not really expecting him to stay much longer, but now come to think of it I think he might of had the whole senario planned to get to know me, because he didn't leave. He stayed and talked to me for a long while. I think it was about an hour and a half. I didn't see anything wrong with it, we just talked about surfacy stuff. I found out he is a new Christian. He cusses like a sailor, but brought up the aspect of church to me. I know he is a very new christian because there was a lot of basic stuff that I asked him that he didn't know what I was talking about, like if his church was traditional or contempory.
I talked with him, keeping myself at a cautious distance. Then I did something potentially stupid. He asked me for my phone number. He phrased it in such a way that he liked talking to me and wasn't trying to get with me but maybe we could walk the dog together or read the bible together or something. I said to him I don't see why not. He could ascertain that there is a guy of some sort in my life because of the context of my conversation with Becca. I didn't say anything to you Becca, because you called before we really started up a conversation. He is not someone I would ever consider dating. If I date anyone I know, it would be Brian, I mean we already are in some respect, but it's very casual I suppose. I still don't understand what is going on, and we can talk about it until we are blue in the face and I still don't know the dynamics of our relationship. So since, I am not offically his, I guess I didn't see anything wrong with talking to this new guy. I mean he's not even competition Brian would need to worry about. But I did want to tell him what happened, so I called him but he wasn't home.
So what do you think? Would I be wrong for allowing a new "friendship" to develop with someone who is more than likely interested in me in some respect, when I have already gotten involved in something with another guy regardless of the fact that he is holding back on me, (and seemingly for the right reasons?)

4 Comments:

Blogger Beccalynn said...

Whoa for a moment....Ha ha, I opened your blog to comment on your word ver. comment on MY blog...and it seems to fit well for what I wanted to comment on THIS entry (did you catch all that?)
But yeah, Whoa for a moment...that's a difficult one. But I dont' see any problem with it. There's nothing wrong with gettign to know new friends--especially when you and Brian are on a hiatus because you don't know where it's going. THat's my opinion. I could be wrong, but I just dont' think there's anythign wrong with you talking to another guy just to be his friend...or if you were interested in something more, at this point in yoru relationship with brian, I don't think it would be wrong for you to pursue that either.
I hope someone else comments on this because I don't know that my advice is all that good or coherent.

9:15 AM, April 26, 2007  
Blogger Jessica said...

Hey again Lynette!

So.....I'm going to do my best to give you some feedback here, but like Becca, I'm not sure it'll make any sense....especially since I don't know the full Brian story. But from where I'm sitting, I don't think there is anything wrong with getting to know Valley Forge guy, since you and Brian seem to not be officially a couple, and Valley Forge guy didn't specifically ask you out on a date. However, I think it would only be fair to VFguy to let him know about Brian....or vice versa, depending on which one you are most interested in and think is going to go somewhere beyond where it is right now. Not knowing all about Brian, it seems to me like you're doing the right thing to try to let him know at least what happened. I'd hate for something good there to be ruined because he found out indirectly that you are spending time with some other guy. Likewise, I think VFguy should know up front if there's a chance of something more developing with Brian. Does that make any sense whatsoever? Basically, I guess what I'm telling you is that you didn't do anything wrong, necessarily, but you should keep in mind that silence toward either party about what is going on has the potential to hurt them...and I know that's not what you intend.

*whew* I hope that made sense. And I hope I didn't overstep my boundaries by blabbing on to you like that. You didn't really ask my advice.....

11:56 AM, April 26, 2007  
Blogger Beccalynn said...

Jess, I knew you could put it better than me!

7:16 AM, April 27, 2007  
Blogger Beccalynn said...

your word verification is wwrnutsm
I think it looks like, "What, are you nuts, man?"
...well, at least it has the actual word "nuts" in it! Ha ha

7:17 AM, April 27, 2007  

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